In grade 8, I came out to my friends that I was more or less a lesbian. I made it clear that I was only attracted to boys if they were extremely feminine. Me and most of my friends, during that point and time, were really into anime. We were pretty much all smack dab in the middle of our weeaboo phase.
Fast forward a year, and I’m out of that phase, and going to a different high school than my other friends.
After about a week of being friendless, I see this guy that looks like my kind of friend-material. Let’s call him Ro. He’s clean, seems nice, and happens to be wearing a Dave Strider shirt. At that point, I was getting into Homestuck and I figured why not say hey? So I go up to the guy and say, “I really like your shirt!”
He smiles all shy like and smiles, then invites me to sit with him. After a few minutes of talking about Homestuck, a few of his other friends show up (all guys kind of like him). It’s all fine and dandy, until he says,
"So, do you watch anime?" and I’m like, "yeah, I do. Used to be a huge fan, but these days it’s just a casual thing." He grins all big and I think it’s a bit weird he’s so happy about it but hey, I’d be too if no one else shared my interests.
At this point his friends are looking at me like they’re trying to tell me something, shooting looks at my bag. Wondering what the hell they’re staring at, I look down and see my rainbow “LGBT PRIDE” badge on my bag. Lo and behold, Ro is staring at it too.
"Are you a lesbian?" he asks. I nod, and it all goes to shit.
"OH MY GOSH!" He yells, "That’s sooo cool! I really admire that you, you’re soooo lucky…. I wish I could be a girl so that I could do yuri," he says, practically panting at me. By this point I’m feeling a little weirded out, and his friends look like they knew this was coming and like it happened often.
Then, really loud, he yells, “I HAVE A FRIEND WHO IS INTO YURI, DO YOU WANNA DO YURI WITH HER?” and like, scoots way too close for my comfort and oh my gods I was so uncomfortable. I’m a really quiet but not exactly shy person, and i don’t require a lot of personal space, but this was a bit much.
The problem with me is that I don’t like hurting people’s feelings. So I don’t really know how to tell this guy that I really want, no NEED him to back the fuck off. So I just smile nervously and say,
"Uhm… I… I have a girlfriend," I say, which isn’t a lie. He says, "Oh, oh! I’m so sorry!" he giggles and looks at me kinda funny, like he’s in on a secret I don’t know, and then just completely goes back to normal.
I figured that maybe it was something, you know, kinda weird for him, maybe just some one-time thing, so I continue hanging out with him and everything’s normal for a while, till one day he invites me to the movies. I say sure, why not? But then he invites my girlfriend. I don’t know if I’m comfortable with that, but I ask her if she wants to go and she says sure, so off we go on Saturday to the theatre.
We get there and Ro’s practically pacing, looking around for us. When he sees me, his eyes snap to my girlfriend and he grins really wide. I’m a little creeped out, so I pull her a little closer, which was the WRONG thing to do. His eyes get all wide and he licks his lips, and I don’t like that at all. I start to think that this was a bad idea, but my girlfriend (let’s call her Jill) doesn’t really notice.
Now, the thing about my girlfriend is that she’s MTF, meaning that she’s transgender. She’s pre-everything, but she’s very feminine naturally, and that day she chose to wear a skirt. She’s got on tights underneath because she isn’t confident of her legs, and she looks gorgeous.
We go into the theatre, and all of a sudden I hear someone yell “AARON!” (name changed) which is Jill’s birth name. I tense up, because I know she really REALLY doesn’t want anything to do with her birth name, and the male pronouns that come with it. And I am /extremely/ protective of my girlfriend.
This guy comes up, laughing. “Aaron, hi! I haven’t seen you in a really long time! How’s it going, man?” he says, totally disregarding her obviously feminine appearance. We’ve run into this guy before, and he’s totally transphobic but really likes Jill as a friend, so he just pretends that she’s NOT trans, which is an EXTREMELY SHITTY THING TO DO.
Ro looks at us, really confused, and says, “Aaron? Who is Aaron?” and I just try to control myself. I look at the other guy and speak up for Jill, because she doesn’t like confronting people about her gender.
"Look man, can you back off? We’ve explained this to you before, her name is Jill." The guy just narrows his eyes at me and looks at Jill, as if expecting support. She just glares at him and shakes her head, obviously disappointing in him. He stalks off, and Ro turns to us.
"What the hell was that?" he says, looking pretty angry. I look at Jill and she nods, so I explain to him that Jill is transgender, and I’ve never seen someone that angry before.
"What the FUCK?!" he yells, and people are starting to look at us. "I fucking thought you guys were yuri!?" he says, and I grab Jill and start to back away, trying to find some security officers.
Then, he fucking lunges forward and lifts up Jill’s skirt, yelling about how “fucking traps are ruining my yuri” and “I’ve gotta make sure this bitch really has a dick” and I just FLIPPED THE FUCK OUT. I jump forward and knee him in the balls while screaming for security, and Jill’s sobbing her eyes out. A bunch of random (but heroic) guys rush over and grab Ro, tackling him to the ground while ushering Jill and me out of the theatre. We gave our statement to the police and filed a restraining order, but man.
That’s why you should always be careful if you get bad vibes from people. Some people are fucking jerks