…I don’t think that’s okay.
So since coming to this university I’ve come across a lot more uncomfortable weeaboo-related situations than I ever really wanted to. I mean, I’ve been in contact with some really extreme weeaboos before- I gravitated towards a lot of big yaoi/yuri fans in high school just because I needed people I thought would be supportive of my identity. ~Shockingly~ they were not. But I’ve never met so many in one place, I guess. (I have stories about my high school days, but those are for another day).
I like anime and manga alright, it’s not my biggest passion in life and I’ve never been to a con, but it’s pretty neat in my book. Whatever, I’m cool with people who are big into it. But there are just some things I really don’t think are okay.
Easter weekend. I live seven hours away from my university, so I have to fly home for the holiday. I’m sitting outside on a railing waiting for my cab to bring me to the airport. Nothing horrific happened to me, but as I’m chilling there, I hear two young women start up a conversation. Apparently, they’re friends, and members of the anime house. In my school, we have programmed suites; I live in the LGBT housing, there’s an athletic program, Russian language, etc. The entire anime house is pretty much what you’d expect, and it’s uncomfortable. I don’t say this from pre existing prejudice, but because I have been in and met people from anime house, and it’s pretty, well, interesting.
From their conversation, I gathered that they were on their way to a con. One, let’s call her A, had never been to one before. B was lecturing her on con etiquette.
A: “I want to meet someone at this con, you know? I mean there have to be asians there. But I don’t know how to flirt.”
B: “You don’t have to flirt at a con. You just glomp people.”
A: “Seriously?”
B: “Yeah, like, you don’t even have to ask. It’s a con, that’s the point. If you see someone cosplaying as a character you like, you can just grab them and tackle them and stuff. That’s what cosplayers are there for.”
A: “Oh, okay. I’ll try that!”
I’m pretty much horrified by this conversation. The fact that someone is being encouraged to invade the personal space of cosplayers, and being told that it’s totally acceptable, and that real world rules don’t apply to cons. I look up, and it turns out A is this girl my friend was considering asking on a date- until he found her OKCupid profile which said that she “doesn’t date non-Asians, so don’t even think about it”.
My cab came before I even had to make eye contact with them thankfully, but seriously, if anyone at whatever con they were going to was groped by either of those girls, I’m really sorry.
I cannot believe I actually heard someone verbally saying that cosplayers are free game to be harrassed and “glomped” without asking permission. I think that’s what gets me about this story. “Don’t worry, that’s what they’re there for.” Ugh.